Use & Addiction

Participants Needed for Stag Tour Research

Participants Needed for Stag Tour Research

I am a postgraduate student at London Metropolitan University who is currently undertaking research into the meanings of stag party sex tourism. Lately there’s been quite a lot of media coverage about the increase in the number of stag parties going abroad for stag weekends. The coverage has drawn attention to the fact that buying sexual services is often a part of the stag weekend abroad. I am seeking to explore this apparent relationship between the stag weekend abroad and buying sex.I am really in need for anonymous interview participants. Interviews will take place by telephone at a time that is convenient for you and only last about 20 – 30 minutes. Questions will explore your experiences, decision making and feelings about paying for...

What’s at the core of porn? 14yo posting porn on FB and other news in April

What’s at the core of porn? 14yo posting porn on FB and other news in April

This month my blog is based around one quote from the article ”Is porn hijacking our sexuality? (Part 1)?” “After all, most of us would know pornography when we see it. But there’s no definition of pornography in UK law: “obscenity” is covered by the Obscene Publications Acts (obscene material is defined as that with “tends to deprave or corrupt)… these definitions are intended to be narrow, and there’s obviously a huge volume of material that is pornographic, and yet doesn’t fulfill the criteria for obscenity”. I am no expert on U.K. law but I would argue that in many ways depravity and corruption is at the core of pornography. In the U.S. a letter drafted and signed by 117 member of the House and...

Porn and Me: an adolescent’s relationship with porn

Porn and Me: an adolescent’s relationship with porn

I am a teenager living in the US and this is a short account of my relationship with porn. I started watching porn when I was in 5th grade. Seriously? 5th Grade? Yup. I had gotten my first laptop, and it was so easy to access. All I had to do was open up an internet browser, search, and there it was. It started by just looking at girls in their underwear, but then slowly developed until I was watching porn. At first it was just every now and then, then it became more frequent, until I was watching it 3 or 4 days a week. ‘Lesbian’ porn, hand-jobs, and then the list goes darker. I would masturbate to it, and the endorphins would...

Porn is not a dirty word, but that does not make it a clean business

Porn is not a dirty word, but that does not make it a clean business

The Sydney Morning Herald published an article entitled Porn is not a dirty word recently in which the writer suggests that “most men really like watching is sex involving eager, willing women”. To underline her point she quoted a 37 year old man whose wife had asked him early in their marriage if he’d be willing to give up watching porn. He responded affirmatively and “then asked her whether she would have sex whenever I felt like it, given that I would not have any pornography. She said no, so to this day I still have my porn.”. To me this is a very selfish reaction from the part of the man. When you are in a relationship you cannot expect your partner to feel like having...

When life turns into reality porn

When life turns into reality porn

I used to watch porn – a lot of porn. I do not like using the word addict for myself as I feel it takes away the huge element of choice I had in the matter. I decided to watch porn as a way of coping with things. Just like I chose to do it secretly and lie about it to everyone I knew. My standard response was “I do not watch porn”. Then, one day in 2008, my partner found out I watched porn. She was shell-shocked. Everything I had told her and everything she believed about me fell away like an old crumbly wall. For me at that time the choice was easy – NEVER AGAIN! It would be untrue to say...

Internet porn makes men bad in bed

Internet porn makes men bad in bed

Psychology today recently published an article by Marnia Robinson, author of Cupid’s Poisoned Arrow, which stated that a growing number of young men addicted to porn, that are otherwise healthy, were developing an inability to be turned on by real partners. Supported by research from Italy and elsewhere the idea is that internet porn desensitizes young men to such a degree that when actually faced with a real human from their target sex group, they are entirely unable to participate as they should. “Desperate young men from various cultures, with different levels of education, religiosity, attitudes, values, diets, marijuana use, and personalities are seeking help. They have only two things in common: heavy use of today’s Internet porn and increasing need for more extreme...

Anonymity and denial in porn use

Anonymity and denial in porn use

For all the time I used internet porn it was vital for me that no one find out. I didn’t want people I knew finding out that I was using it, and more importantly didn’t want them knowing some of the often disturbing and overly violent porn I was starting to use more and more. I didn’t want my girlfriend to think she wasn’t enough or wasn’t right in some way. I didn’t want her to see what I had found myself watching and imagine me taking pleasure from it. Men who watched porn were sad, uncool, and lonely, not who I was or wanted to be. I didn’t want her to think of me like that, of me in a dark room, sitting...

DSM-5 Attempts to Sweep Porn Addiction Under the Rug

DSM-5 Attempts to Sweep Porn Addiction Under the Rug

By Gary Wilson and Marnia Robinson The Sexual and Gender Identity Disorders work group for the upcoming Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5) is currently discussing whether to demote the proposed “Hypersexual Disorder” (which addresses compulsive porn use, among other behaviors) from Sexual Dysfunctions to the appendix. Further, a member of the work group advises that “Hypersexual Disorder” may be banished altogether, offering no explanation. The DSM is psychiatry’s bible. If a disorder isn’t in there, insurance companies won’t reimburse treatment costs for it, so psychiatrists don’t diagnose patients as having it. In the health care world, “Reality is what the DSM says it is.” So, if you fall into compulsive Internet porn use…tough luck. Your condition doesn’t exist and you will...

The Elephant in the Room of Porn Use

The Elephant in the Room of Porn Use

It’s a common situation, common enough that it no longer shocks or surprises: a woman discovers that her husband is using porn. There is no way of knowing how many couples this situation affects, for the simple reason that most of them keep it secret. Some women tell their close friends, others post on porn-related internet forums. The response is always the same: we mumble our commiserations for the woman’s misfortune and offer our best wishes for the future. Oh – there’s one other thing we always do; or, more accurately, don’t do: we never, ever, ever mention the elephant in the room of porn. In our dualistic world, we automatically and unconsciously divide everything in our awareness into good or bad, constantly assessing...

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